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Or My Family and Other Foreigners: A Memoir of Cultural Collision and Personal Identity

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By Mia Alvar

In her debut memoir, Or My Family and Other Foreigners, Mia Alvar explores the complexities of cultural identity and the challenges of assimilation. Born in the Philippines and raised in Bahrain, Alvar's upbringing was a tapestry of different cultures that shaped her into the person she is today.

The Nearly Departed: Or, My Family and Other Foreigners

by Brenda Cullerton

4.8 out of 5

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Through a series of poignant and often humorous essays, Alvar recounts her experiences as a Filipina-American woman navigating the cultural divide between East and West. She writes about her family's immigration to the United States, her struggles with racial prejudice, and her own search for a sense of belonging.

Bridging Cultural Gaps

One of the central themes of Or My Family and Other Foreigners is the challenge of bridging cultural gaps. Alvar's family immigrated to the United States when she was a child, and she grew up feeling like an outsider in both her native country and her adopted home.

In the essay "The Language of My Skin," she describes the frustration of not being able to fully express herself in either English or Tagalog. "I am a foreigner in my own country," she writes, "and a foreigner in the country of my birth."

Despite the challenges, Alvar also finds ways to connect with both cultures. She learns to embrace her Filipino heritage while also forging a new identity as an American. "I am a hyphenated woman," she writes, "a product of two worlds."

Racism and Identity

Alvar's memoir also confronts the issue of racism and its impact on her identity. As a Filipina-American woman, she has often faced discrimination and prejudice. In the essay "The Color of My Heart," she recounts an incident where she was called a racial slur at school.

Experiences like these have shaped Alvar's understanding of her own identity. She writes, "I am not ashamed to be Filipina, but I am also not ashamed to be American. I am proud of who I am, and I will not let anyone tell me otherwise."

In Search of Belonging

Throughout her memoir, Alvar explores the search for a sense of belonging. She writes about the loneliness of being an immigrant and the difficulty of finding her place in the world.

However, she also finds solace in her family and community. In the essay "My Filipino Family," she describes the importance of her extended family in her life. "My family is my foundation," she writes, "and they are always there for me."

Or My Family and Other Foreigners is a powerful and moving memoir that explores the complex issues of cultural identity, racism, and the search for belonging. Mia Alvar's writing is honest, insightful, and often humorous. She tells her story with a unique voice that will resonate with anyone who has ever felt like an outsider.

A young Filipina-American woman sits on a bench, looking thoughtful and introspective. She is wearing a traditional Filipino dress and has long, flowing hair. The background is blurry and out of focus.

The Nearly Departed: Or, My Family and Other Foreigners

by Brenda Cullerton

4.8 out of 5